How to feel more confidence in yourself
Not only does being confident feel good. it helps you seize potential opportunities.
it’s a powerful word and an even more powerful feeling.
However, Confidence is a very tricky little thing. Feeling good about yourself is easy to put at the will of others when it should be up to you.
The good news is that you’re driving this self-assurance train and it’s ready to depart from the station.
Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit. – E.E. Cummings
What Really Is Confidence?
Confidence can refer to a general sense of belief and trust in your own ability. The ability to control your life or it might be more situation-specific. For example, you might have high self-confidence in an area of expertise but feel less confident in other areas.
Here are some points below to give a boost to both self-esteem and self-confidence;
1. Think positive.
One thing I learned when I started running, about a years ago, replacing negative thoughts with positive ones. How I can actually change my thoughts, and by doing so make great things happened. With this tiny little skill, I was able to train for and run a marathon within a year. It sounds so trite, but my goodness! this works. Seriously. Try it if you haven’t.
2. Kill negative thoughts.
Goes hand-in-hand with the above item, but it’s so important that I made it a separate item. You have to learn to be aware of your self-talk, the thoughts you have about yourself and what you’re doing. When I was running, sometimes my mind would start to say, “This is too hard. I want to stop and go watch TV.”
Well, I soon learned to recognize this negative self-talk, and soon I learned a trick that changed everything in my life: I would imagine that a negative thought was a bug. All I’ll do is vigilantly be on the lookout for these bugs. When I caught one, I would stomp on it (mentally of course) and squash it. Kill it dead. Then replace it with a positive one.
Know yourself and you will win all battles. – Sun Tzu
3. Be True to You
One of the surest ways to lose confidence is try to be someone else. One of the best ways to build your confidence? Be true to yourself.
When you’re trying to be someone you’re not, every part of you resists it. You are not everyone else. You are you. And the more you can understand who you are and what you value the stronger you will be.
4. Stop Comparing Yourself
Nothing zaps your confidence more than comparing yourself to others. Especially now, with social media and the wonderful opportunity to judge yourself against so many others!. Lack of confidence comes from a gap in where you see yourself and where you think you should be.
Imagine you are preparing to give a big presentation or speech. So you do your research, which includes watching some of the best speakers in the world doing their Ted Talks. Of course you are going to feel inferior.
How?
Stop comparing yourself to others. Just stop. Measure how far you’ve come. See how much improvement you’ve made. Acknowledge your wins and successes.
5. Focus on solutions.
If you are a complainer, or focus on problems, change your focus now. Focusing on solutions is one of the best things you can do for your confidence and your career. “I’m fat and lazy!” So how can you solve that?. “But I can’t motivate myself!” So how can you solve that?. “But I have no energy!” So what’s the solution?.
6. Do something you’ve been procrastinating on.
What’s on your to-do list that’s been sitting there? Do it first thing in the morning, and get it out of the way. You’ll feel great about yourself.
Conclusion,
Improving your self-confidence (Consistently) can have a range of positive effects on your life. In addition to helping you feel better about yourself and your abilities, it can make your relationships stronger and make you more resilient to stress.
You can also check;
https://www.nairavoice.com.ng/how-to-stay-focused-and-positive/
On how to stay positive and focused.