Difficult times often appears as though it’s an unending trial. In these challenging situations, maintaining a good mindset is probably the most important thing you can do. It will allow you to stay upbeat.
Also, to avoid pointless sorrow, persist through the hardship, find smart solutions and eventually turn the situation around.
However, we’ve got some points to always remember through this phase. Although People tend to forget these ideas.
One’s thinking becomes overly pessimistic and gloomy. But if you bear these ideas in mind, they will do wonders for your emotional state. This will help your capacity to overcome the challenge you’re facing.
1. You Have Lots of Strengths as a Person
When the going gets tough, it’s common for us to stop seeing our strengths and only be aware of our flaws. Thus, we see ourselves as losers, incapable to rise above difficult situations. But this is never true. Just like any other person out there, you have a combination of strengths and weaknesses.
The key is to remind yourself that you have lots of strengths. Perhaps start thinking about some of them in particular, and do a quick mental check of some of your strengths. By doing this, your perception of yourself will shift and become more balanced. Again, this will empower you and give you confidence that you’ll handle the situation you’re in effectively.
2. No matter how bad it feels now, it won’t feel this way forever
Research study found that people are generally pretty lousy at forecasting their feelings when they’re in the middle a tough situation. In fact, in the midst of a crisis, we tend to think we will always feel the way we do now. Not true. It’s not that things don’t hurt. It’s that they don’t hurt quite as long or as much as we think they’re going to. So no matter how bad you feel right now, know that you will not feel this way forever. Hope is a risk that must be run.
3. Life doesn’t happen to you, it happens for you
You would not be half the person you were today if everything you’d ever wanted had gone to plan. You might not choose your current circumstances, but they hold a silent invitation for you to grow into more of the person you have it within you to be.
Adversity has a way of introducing us to aspects of our humanity –strengths, talents and deeper dimensions of our own being – that we couldn’t access without them. So embrace those uncomfortable emotions for the opportunity they hold to learn and grow in whole new ways.
As I have written before, growth and comfort can’t ride the same horse. Just because an experience is hard, doesn’t mean it’s bad. Sometimes the very worst thing that ever happened to us can turn out to be the very best thing.
4. It Happens to Everybody
Frequently when facing hardship, our thinking will trick us into believing that this happens only to us. Other people don’t go through the kind of difficulties we go through. It almost seems like the universe is plotting against us and wants to hurt us.
However, with a bit of lucid reflecting, you’ll quickly realize this is not true. What’s true is that you’re hyper-aware of your troubles because they’re, you know, yours. But you’re not nearly as aware of other people’s trouble, which makes it seem like they have it much better than you.
This is highly unlikely though. So remember that whatever happens to you, in the same form or a related one, happens to almost everybody.
5. There Are a Lot of Things to Be Grateful For
So some things aren’t going well in your life. That’s less than ideal, but if you think about it, there are still lots of things that are going well in your life and there is still a lot to be grateful for.
Maybe your romantic relationship is in trouble, but you have a great career. Maybe your career is in trouble, but you still have your health and your family. And there are so many small but significant things to be grateful for: a walk in the park, a cup of coffee, a nice sunset, a casual conversation.
When going through tough times in life, think about this for a second and start noticing the things to be grateful for. It will completely change your perspective. You’ll realize things aren’t that bad after all, and that, troubles and all, life is worth appreciating.
In conclusion,
Trusting yourself may not change your experiences in life, but it will can change your experience of life.
The more you trust that ‘you’ve got this,’ the sooner you actually will.
You could do a little work, Write these ideas on a small piece of paper and carry it with you all the time. And whenever you’re confronted with a tough situation, take out the piece of paper and mindfully read to yourself at least once.
You’ll notice that your mindset will begin to shift, you’ll become more positive and you’ll feel better. And once you’re in the right mindset and the right emotional state, it won’t take long before you’ll figure a way to overcome the tough situation you’re in.